Wassup, family!

This is the “Grand Posting” – the alpha post, if you will.  I am here, celebrating my little girl’s birthday, and I’m currently on vacation from the job.  I took this vacation to do something that sometimes we neglect to do (whether minor or majorly), and that is spend time with the family – with all ego and problems aside.  Yeah, there is the “same ole, same ole” normal family problems, but we have to always remember each family has its own standard of normal.

Over the past nine days, I’ve taken the time to get to know all of my family members all over again.  From my grandma all the way to the little one, it is funny how we can forget the things in the family that bonded us in the first place.  Oh, and when I say family, I don’t mean just immediate.  I hung out with extended family, too, and man, when you go back to ground zero with friends that have been with you for 20 years, it shows a friendship that can stand the test of time.

Being thankful for the special people in my life is something I do every day, but not in a truly intimate way as I have done this past week.  It actually made me think maybe I was destined to know these people for a reason, or maybe it was just a fluke and I lucked up to know them.  Life, once again, is a funny thing.  I have seen people come and go in my life, either for great reasons or horrible reasons.  I have been in dark places with people that I needed there to be there and help me wise up to get me from places we shared.

Some people have looked on from afar and hoped I would stay in my dark place.  Retired football coach Lou Holtz once said some things that resonate with me:

  • “Don’t tell your problems to people: eighty percent don’t care; and the other twenty percent are glad you have them.”
  • “Life is ten percent what happens to you and ninety percent how you respond to it.”
  • “Motivation is simple. You eliminate those who are not motivated.”

Sometimes, we need not focus on how or why we know these people, but how much joy they bring to us when in their presence.  How well do we really “know” people anyway?

Do you have a “frienemy” (I hate that term by the way)?  How in the hell are you friends and enemies at the same time?!  I think this is paradoxical, as I am so personable with my friends, all flaws are shown glaringly to them.  To my enemies, I only reveal best side of me – the flawless side – free of weaknesses.  For terms like that, I need a little more insight (dialogue if you will).

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